A.A. as Part of an Overall Treatment Plan: An Interview with Sarah Allen Benton
Sarah Allen Benton MS, LMHC, LPC, is the author of the book “Understanding the High-Functioning Alcoholic.” She is a Licensed Professional Counselor practicing at Insight Counseling, specializing in outpatient adolescent/young adult addiction services, family support, and mental health services for clients of all ages in Ridgefield, Connecticut.
Sarah is also a co-owner of Benton Behavioral Health Consulting, LLC, offering a range of addiction and dual diagnosis treatment services. Sarah writes about addiction and recovery in her Psychology Today blog.
The Many Facets of Treatment
You feel you have your drinking under control. Yeah, it’s bad sometimes, but it doesn’t impact your work, family, or friends. Or at least that’s what you think. We recently spoke with Sarah Allen Benton, discussing A.A. as a part of recovery, and why many alcoholics aren’t seeking the treatment they really need. A 12-step peer support system is an important component of treatment for most alcoholics, and most benefit from additional treatment options as well. Yet even with a range of accessible treatment choices available, many alcoholics still go untreated.
High-functioning alcoholics often avoid treatment. “They don’t think their ‘problem’ is bad enough to warrant rehab. That is part of the barrier—their own belief that, ‘I’ve been successful in three out of four areas. So my drinking is bad, but look at how well I am doing at work; I am married, and I have friends.’ One has nothing to do with the other. The point is, they have a progressive disease and an addictive issue that is preventing them from dealing with life. They aren’t learning ways to manage life, and they try to manage it by drinking—and they may even be putting their life in danger.”
I think for many alcoholics, alcohol is the solution. At the same time, it is also the problem. It’s not solving anything in the long run.
-Sarah Allen Benton
The people who contact Benton most frequently about addiction help are the friends and family of addicts. The alcoholic doesn’t usually reach out, because they are often unable to see how their addiction is impacting their own life and the lives of others.
“There is a bit of almost delusional thought when you suffer from an addiction. You aren’t thinking clearly, and you are also focused solely on your own needs: what you want, what feels good, and what your solution is. I think for many alcoholics, alcohol is the solution. At the same time, it is also the problem. It’s not solving anything in the long run.” It’s actually making things worse.
“Say you have an anxiety issue, and when you drink you feel calmer. It’s not actually the treatment for an anxiety disorder. When you are hungover, your anxiety may be even worse, physiologically—which then leads you to drink more. You are actually putting your nervous system on a roller coaster ride in the name of ‘but I feel better in the moment.’”
Co-occurring disorders, such as anxiety, PTSD, or depression, often go hand-in-hand with alcoholism. “It is really hard to solve those issues if you are still drinking, and it is so hard to tease it out when someone is drinking actively.” In cases such as this, a 12-step program will be most helpful when included with other treatment. Benton agrees.
No one is saying A.A. is the be-all and end-all solution for every single problem in your life, including alcoholism, or that you just go to meetings and do the work and that is it. There are so many other pieces to recovery.
“With my individual clients, I encourage them to look at recovery from a holistic perspective–the whole person. There are different pieces to your recovery including: self-help meetings of your choice (i.e. A.A., SMART Recovery, Women for Sobriety, Celebrate Recovery), therapy, medication management if it is assessed as being necessary, self-care (i.e., exercise, nutrition, alternative medicine, acupuncture, yoga, meditation). Additionally, individuals may benefit from improving family relationships, vocational and educational pursuits, and finding meaning and purpose in your life. Recovery is about finding balance.”
So it raises some red flags for Benton when she hears about people becoming extremely one-sided in their recovery.
“I hear that an individual is attending two meetings a day every single day and not doing anything else for their recovery—I am not comforted by that. I am actually concerned, because if something happens and they stop liking meetings, well, what else do they have? It’s really about finding different support pieces for your recovery, and having a treatment team in a sense—a therapist and a psychiatrist if you need one, or social support in your mutual help group. There are various ways to get sober and different paths.”
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Moderation is Not the Answer
One of those paths, the abstinence preached by A.A. and other abstinence-based self-help groups and addiction treatment, have come under fire recently by Gabrielle Glaser in her article, The Irrationality of Alcoholics Anonymous. In this article Glaser suggests that the abstinence model of A.A. might not be as effective as simply drinking in moderation. Benton rightly took umbrage with this message—personal experience and research have taught her the opposite is true. She believes that while problem drinkers or people in a heavy drinking phase in life can eventually normalize their drinking, alcoholics can’t. In her response to Glaser’s article, Benton gives several arguments for the danger of suggesting such a message.
Benton discussed the tragic case of Audrey Kishline, the founder of Moderation Management, someone who suggested that moderation was possible for alcoholics. “Audrey killed a father and a twelve-year-old daughter in an automobile accident after an alcohol binge, because she was unable to moderate her own drinking. She was quoted as saying in a Dateline NBC interview that she no longer believed that alcoholics can moderate, only problem drinkers. That is very powerful.”
There is also Benton’s own experience. “I went to a moderation management therapist. I know, I understand this, this isn’t something I am just theorizing. I failed. I was unable to adhere to that menu.” Alcoholics, Benton states, cannot moderate—so the only time moderation should be a part of a treatment plan is for assessment, harm reduction, or for a problem drinker. “I needed it for myself to believe that I was truly an alcoholic. I gathered evidence that I was unable to adhere to what I was being instructed—which was to adhere to low-risk drinking limits. I was unable to do it.” That was when her alcoholism hit home, and she recognized she needed a real treatment plan.
Benton feels the message Glaser’s article contains is dangerous. Glaser is “telling alcoholics that there is another way,” a way other than abstinence. And that is worrisome because “alcoholics are dying for someone to give them an excuse to drink. They are clinging to articles about a solution like this.” But it isn’t the solution they need.
Each person’s solution will look a bit different. But it takes more than moderation to help an alcoholic recover.
“Self-help groups should be part of recovery. A large percentage of people with addictions have other outside issues; it might even be a marital issue. A.A., for example, is not a marriage counseling program, so it is about getting the right help. Say you have a medical condition, mental health condition, or you have chronic pain. These are all outside issues, and sometimes people feel like they are not getting their needs met—but part of that is because they are not seeking the right additional services to treat their underlying issues, which could have possibly been why they were using in the first place.”
“I am just glad that Alta Mira is willing to have the discussion. I am still getting comments on my blog [from my response to Glaser’s article], and not all positive. I’ve never generated so many comments in such a short time—it’s got people all stirred up. I can’t believe Glaser’s piece was published in a reputable magazine. I was grateful to see the article in the New York Times that mentioned the evidence that attendance at even two meetings a week would increase abstinence rates. I found the message in Glaser’s article dangerous, and my concern is that a person who is questioning their relationship to alcohol is reading that and thinking, ‘I don’t have to abstain, and the solution is moderation,’ and then failing and ultimately harming themselves or others in that mission.”
Before it comes to that, seek help. Everyone’s journey to recovery will be different, but Sarah Allen Benton, and ourselves at Alta Mira, understand the complexities of your individual situation, and believe that only an individualized treatment plan can get you on a road to lifelong recovery.
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